Governors Room at Ancaster Mill | A Fun, Whimsical Pastel Wedding

If you’ve seen Ancaster Mill wedding photos before you’ll probably have noticed the interiors are very heavy with wood and a little bit rustic with original stonework showcased in different areas. It’s been fun to have had the opportunity to work on a few weddings in all of the Ancaster Mill’s reception spaces as they’re each so different. Even the outside looks so different through various times of the year with the beautifully maintained grounds.

While I’m certainly a lover of colourful wedding palettes, it’s always been more on a warmer or summery palette this one felt really special as Chey and Neil wanted to go more pastel. and whimsical, something that was a little unfamiliar to me! Being a designer herself, Chey came with strong ideas that were fun to help her develop further and bring to life, creating a wedding design that is romantic, elegant, and soft, with a refined yet whimsical charm. She designed all of the invitations and wedding day stationery even making custom enamel pins for her guests as the cutest wedding favours as a nod to her business, Sugarbones.

Chey’s dress was "Phoenix" by Enzoani, a lace wedding gown with custom sleeves and a long, flowing veil, giving her a timeless and ethereal look. Her bouquet and all the reception florals featured pastel hues with a mix of peach, blush, soft blue, and cream flowers, adding a delicate and romantic touch.

The tablescape design had a simple white linen base which allowed the colourful florals and blue candles to pop. We had even more fun with the place settings with the four different coloured water glasses that allowed the eye to keep moving around the room. The scalloped edge menus and place cards were the cutest trendy element that somehow felt right at home and timeless with her style.

Service: Design and Management

Photographer Christine Lim Weddings
Venue Ancaster Mill
Tabletop Rentals Special Event Rentals
Florals Kendon Design Co.
Beauty Jen Evoy
Cake Cake and Kale
Dress Designer "Phoenix" by Enzoani
Dress Shop Heirlooms Bridal Shoppe
Suit Speir and Mackay

An Introduction to Wedding Stationery

Save the Date

From the moment you say “I DO” to your venue, you can let guests know the date! Having a Save the Date is not always necessary, you can skip straight to an invitation, but it’s a fun way to announce your celebration, while also giving guests key information to lock it into their calendars.

Save the Dates can be either printed or mailed, whichever suits your budget or the method by which you hope to collect information. Online save the dates are great because you can ask for mailing addresses if doing a printed invitation (more on that later!) and you can also direct guests to a wedding website right away with any other general details you wish to share at that time.

The Invitation

Online versus printed wedding invitations - a tale as old as time. We love both, and they both come with pros and cons that all can be weighed by the couple’s needs, wants or vision for their day. There is no right or wrong answer - just your personal preference! Here are some pros and cons of online and printed invitations!

Cost-Effective & Eco-Friendly, but Limited Design & Personalization

Having an online invitation means no printing costs and no traditional postage costs. And of course, no hassle with the mail system! It also means you are reducing your impact on the environment from paper to carbon footprint with delivery implications, which is a huge factor for many couples. However, often using online invitation websites or platforms can limit your ability to add some key personal touches, or design your invitation to its fullest. Some websites allow you to upload your pre-designed image, but not always. Some websites also have digital postage fees for sending out your invitation so it’s something to keep in mind.. Physical invitations also can hold sentimental value and lots of guests treasure them, hold on to them, or frame them to keep them. 

Convenient, but maybe too convenient

Online invitations are convenient - your guests get them instantly to their email inbox, with no hassle or waiting for print shops, mail systems or delivery. Online is easy to access, and you can get instant responses from your guests, as many online systems include immediate RSVP options. However, online invitations can sometimes get missed in an email inbox, end up in someone’s spam box or a guest may have already unsubscribed from the platform you’re using, eliminating some of the efficiency perks of the site. It can also be too convenient in the ability to respond right away, that some guests might put it off and cause a delay.

Couples also sometimes comment that online invitations reduce the feeling of exclusivity, or an ability to represent them as a couple. Having a printed version often achieves just this, which is why it can be such a popular option.

Having a mailed invitation, while a tangible memory, is also exciting - who doesn’t love getting a beautiful envelope addressed to them!? In a technology-focused world, it is so nice sometimes to receive a hard copy of something, personalized to the guest from the couple. Though slower, receiving a printed invitation is always worth it. 

Easy to Share, Quick to Update but only if Guests are Tech-Savvy

Online invitations are easy to update, revise, change, etc. and often have message broadcasting services on the back end, making it easy to communicate with your guests should there be a major change to your wedding day. They also can embed an RSVP option, which is then tracked on the back end in a seamless online, exported document.

On the flip side, some of your guests may not be tech-savvy or unfamiliar with the digital tools, causing them to struggle to access the information you're providing. Or, if someone lives abroad or in a remote area, online access may be limited which leaves them unable to respond in the time you’d like them to. Some guests may also have privacy concerns, or not feel comfortable using an online system.

A common compromise? Having a dual system - the majority of your guests receive an online invitation, while select guests, or older guests, receive a printed version to either be mailed or hand-delivered by the couple themselves. Having Trouble Hearing Back from Vendors

In the beginning, give them grace. A lot of vendors spend a lot of time working outside their emails, especially during a busy wedding season! Monday is our Sunday! However, if you are consistently not hearing back from them, politely explain that you would like more communication and provide them the opportunity to explain their work style, hours and response times.

However, before getting to this place, it is important to set these expectations early and have these conversations! We all work hard, and things can be crazy busy, but be sure to protect what you’re expecting based on details outlined in the contract.

The Day-of Signage

Welcome Sign

A welcome sign greets your guests as they arrive, and also helps as directional signage should you be somewhere that has multiple weddings, or multiple locations.

Directional Signs

Often used on private property weddings or in venues where there are multiple events happening, this helps direct guests to the various areas they need to go to during a wedding day, especially if the property is larger or there aren’t staff there to direct 

Cleland Studios, Fable Floral Design, All That’s Lovely, Harding Waterfront Estate

Will Reid Photography, Paper and Poste. University Club of Toronto

Seating Chart

The name explains itself! This sign helps guests know where they are seated. Our best advice is to sort this alphabetically by last name, so that guests can easily find their name during cocktail, or just after, before taking their seat in the main reception area. Sorting by table will slow down the time it takes guests to find their names.

Bar Signs + Signature Cocktails

Bar signs, though often venue-provided, can be a fun way to include images of furry friends or to indicate signature cocktails with a fun name! It helps to integrate an overall theme even in the bar area consistent with your other wedding branding.

Will Reid Photo, All That’s Lovely, Bloom and Co.

Mango Studios

All That’s Lovely, Cleland Studios

Napkins

A fun inclusion is personalized napkins at a wedding during cocktail hour with passed hors d’oeuvres or at the bar. We’ve seen so many versions over the years: furry friends, quotes, couples monograms or initials, love letters couples used to write to each other, etc. The sky is the limit!

Table Numbers

As part of the overall table decor, your table numbers are a beautiful representation of the colour, vibe and theme on each guest table and help to seamlessly tie in your vision. These should be easy to read and stand out against the other decor you have on the table.

Place Cards

These handy cards indicate where guests are sitting at your table, and can be tied into your aesthetic with the menus and table numbers matching, having the same font styles, colours etc. Place cards can also be helpful to servers when a meal choice is indicated on the place card versus a menu. You can also be creative in how the meal choice is communicated - perhaps it’s a floral graphic in the bottom left corner for beef and the top right for chicken. Or if you’ve included a crest in your wedding branding, B for beef or C for chicken is subtle but clear.

Menus

A helpful tool to remind guests of what they are eating for each course, throughout the night, etc and also ties into the design of the tables and other stationery pieces. It is also helpful to personalize each menu to the guest’s meal choice, and can also have their name at the top if not doing a formal place card. This also removes any confusion with guests changing their minds on the wedding day and impacting the kitchen’s efficiency of service.

For Your Party, Christine Lim Photography

Statue Rue, Robin Sassi Photo

Christine Lim Photography, Sugarbones

Christine Lim Photography, All That's Lovely

Receiving Table 

• There are a variety of options you can have on your receiving (welcome) table to include additional signage, indicate to guests what is there, or to honour loved ones. 

• Examples include signage for: In Memoriam, Guest Book, Card Box, Gifts, Favours

In summary, wedding stationery is an essential part of wedding planning that serves both practical and emotional purposes. It not only conveys important information but also reflects your style and helps create a memorable experience for you and your guests.

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A Romantic Harding Waterfront Estate Wedding

Harding Waterfront Estate has flown a bit under the radar until the last few years when it’s making a name for itself as a great Toronto wedding venue. It’s one of only a few wedding venues with tent reception options on site which makes it an incredibly unique option.

It’s located a short drive from Toronto right on the Mississauga - Oakville border. It features a gorgeous 50 ft x 70 ft glass pavilion (3500 sq. ft) which can accommodate up to 240 guests for a seated wedding reception and a standing capacity of 500. The vaulted ceilings are a soaring 18’ high, draped in sheer fabric and adorned with 6 dimmable crystal chandeliers. Air conditioning and heating are available seasonally which is rare to find in these types of event spaces.

The grounds are immaculate with lush gardens all around. The outdoor ceremony space overlooks Joshua’s Creek and Lake Ontario is visible from the rear terrace of the estate’s main building, Bell-Gairdner House.

The flexibility within the rental period of the wedding day also lends itself well to getting ready on-site and photos on the property.

Have a scroll through the beautiful photos captured by Cleland Photographs. Florals were designed by Fable Floral Design, stationery by All That’s Lovely and linens, chairs and tabletop pieces by Simply Beautiful Decor.

A Guide to Centerpieces for Rectangular Tables

We’ve talked before about how to design a wedding tablescape and the appropriate linen sizes for different tables.

Today we want to speak specifically about best practices for rectangular tables. Creating a stunning tablescape with florals and candles requires careful planning to ensure both beauty and functionality. For a rectangular table, the width plays a crucial role in determining the layout, balance, and available space for candles and flowers while still being mindful of dinner service essentials like bread baskets, salt and pepper shakers, and other serving pieces.

Below is a guide tailored to three common table widths: 30", 36", and 40".

Understanding Table Width and Space Allocation

Each table width offers different opportunities and challenges when designing your tablescape. Keeping dinner service elements in mind will help you strike the perfect balance between elegance and practicality.

30" Wide Tables

• Best for: Intimate gatherings, smaller venues, or maximizing guest capacity.

• Considerations: With a narrower table, space is limited for large arrangements, so opt for streamlined centerpieces.

• Do’s and Don’ts:

  • Use small floral arrangements and bud vases to avoid crowding the table.

  • Use slim taper candle holders or votives to keep sightlines open.

  • Ensure space for table essentials by leaving small gaps between florals for bread baskets, salt and pepper shakers, etc.

  • Keep side plates to the left of the forks to leave room in the centre.

  • Don’t use garlands as they take up the entire centre length of the table, leaving no room for the necessities.

  • Don’t use charger plates as they will take up vital space.

36" Wide Tables

• Best for: Balanced table settings with more design flexibility.

• Considerations: Provides a good balance between ample tablescape design and service elements.

• Floral & Candle Ideas:

  • Use a variety of small to medium-sized floral arrangements staggered along the table’s center.

  • Incorporate varying heights with pillar candles, tapers, and votives to create depth and interest.

  • Leave room for communal dining items strategically between floral elements.

  • Keep side plates to the left of the forks to leave room in the centre.

  • Don’t use garlands as they take up the entire centre length of the table, leaving no room for the necessities.

40" Wide Tables

• Best for: Formal events and grand tablescapes with abundant decorative elements.

• Considerations: The extra width allows for larger statement arrangements without interfering with table settings and guest comfort.

• Floral & Candle Ideas:

  • Opt for lush, full floral centerpieces with ample space for a combination of taper and pillar candles and votives.

  • Use decorative runners or greenery garlands to create a layered effect.

Practical Tips for Incorporating Dinner Service Essentials

1. Account for Plating Needs: Ensure at least 24" of space per guest for dinnerware, glassware, and napkins.

2. Use Dual-Purpose Décor: Opt for low-profile floral arrangements that do not obstruct views or conversation. Use coloured candles to allow for design interest on the table.

3. Strategic Placement: Leave space between items so that they all have a moment to shine which also gives room for those dinner service elements. Don’t put coffee mugs and saucers on the table until coffee and tea are to be served.

4. Vary Heights for Interest: Mix taper candles, votives, and floral heights to add visual interest without overwhelming the space.

5. Mind Open Flames: If using candles, ensure they are in holders that prevent dripping wax onto the table.

Final Thoughts

Choosing the right tablescape for your event depends on your table width, aesthetic vision, and practical considerations for dining service. Whether you’re planning an intimate gathering or a grand affair, balancing florals, candles, and functional table elements will create an inviting and visually stunning experience for your guests.

Romantic and Timeless White Wedding at Elora Mill

Madeline and Jaron’s Elora Mill wedding ceremony and reception was classic, and romantic full of timeless white wedding decor.

Madeline and her girls got ready at Cedarcliff Elora, a beautiful rental home that makes the best backdrop for wedding day preparations. From the exterior, it looks like a building straight out of Europe, but when you get inside, its interior design is bright, modern, and simple, with stunning features that never outshine the subject during portraits. It also blends seamlessly with the decor of Elora Mill, which helps wedding photos feel cohesive throughout the entire day. Shannon Petrolito and Jeige Beauty were onsite for wedding hair and makeup and they had plenty of space for everyone to feel comfortable!

Madeline and Jaron opted for Creative Direction, our wedding design service where we create a full concept for your wedding design along with clear instructions on how to bring it to life with your vendors on your own. This service is perfect for weddings at the Elora Mill. We love designing weddings at Elora Mill because it’s got such beautiful bones. From the soft and elegant design of the Mill’s ceremony location, The Foundry, to the more natural elements incorporated into the interior of The Granary’s reception rooms, it’s fun to play off. Madeline wanted soft, elegant, romantic and timeless with a white and cream colour palette and I think the team nailed it! We then re-connected to finalize all of their plans through the Event Management service.

Jodi Leigh Designs led the wedding flower design, pulling our suggested pieces from Simply Beautiful Decor for tabletop decor. All That’s Lovely’s day of stationery was the soft, elegant design the space needed so the stationery was functional but beautiful. Mango Studios perfectly captured the elegance and timelessness of the day.

Madeline and Jaron’s day was exclusive to them, meaning their ceremony happened in The Foundry, cocktail hour in the Irvine Room and lobby and reception in the Grand Room. We also had some fun with their floorplan, pulling the head table forward and running parallel with it instead of the usual perpendicular! Scroll through to see how their Elora Mill wedding came to life!

Services: Creative Direction and Event Management

Elora Mill Grand Room Wedding Floorplan

Dress Designer Paloma Blanca,
Dress Shop Avenue 22
Suit from SuitSupply
Party Dress Retrofete

A Colorful and Intimate Same-Sex Gardiner Museum Wedding, a Downtown Toronto Wedding Venue

Mitchell and Scott had been dreaming of a Gardiner Museum wedding when they reached out for wedding planning help in the fall of 2022, yet they were still open to exploring other venues just to make sure their decision was the right one. I sure am glad we made it back to hosting their wedding at Gardiner Museum because it truly is one of my favourite downtown Toronto wedding venues.

From there, we got to dive further into their wedding colour palette and we had so much fun! This was their second must-have - a colour palette that was broad and colourful, fun but classic, without being too literal with the Pride Rainbow. We leaned into green as our lead colour since it felt masculine but inviting. It also allowed us to use the fun, modern, pistachio coloured dining chairs the venue had on hand. The florals allowed us to expand the palette to include purples, blues, pinks and white sparingly just as a backdrop to let the other pieces pop.

The third must-have item on the list was to incorporate their dog, Chester, not only in their ceremony, but also throughout their wedding day stationery. They actually found me on Instagram from a post I had shared of Emilie and Leo’s wedding, where we featured their beautiful doggo, Maple, right through from their wedding invitations to their sweets table cookies! All That’s Lovely, a local Hamilton wedding invitation designer, embraced their vision and created a suite that felt elegant but fun using colour blocking as an economical design element to increase the overall richness using Racing Stripe Green invitation paper with white ink, a Pistachio envelope and a Powder Green details card.

Fable Floral Design, an incredible Toronto wedding florist, was given creative liberty to take our ideas and bring them to life. We dreamed up a unique wedding ceremony floral design using florals and candles on pedestals varying in height. Once the ceremony was complete, this piece was transitioned into a unique seating chart idea. While some florals were transitioned to guest centerpieces, others remained in place, simply replaced with four seating chart signs.

Having the opportunity to work with Daniel et Daniel, easily the best Toronto wedding caterer was a real treat. They handled all venue communication and food and beverage. Their food was incredible and we preset the first course of a watermelon salad which only added to the guest experience as guests entered the Gardiner Museum’s Terrace Room that was transitioned from wedding ceremony to wedding reception.

The full team who brought this downtown Toronto Gardiner Museum wedding venue to life includes Christine Lim Photography, Fable Floral Design, Daniel et Daniel, Element Events, All You Need is Love Weddings, All That’s Lovely Paper Co., ES Bridal, Castle and Cole, Evolved Entertainment and The Food Dudes.

A Classic Wedding at Langdon Hall Country House and Spa in Cambridge, Ontario

Baby’s Breath has had quite the journey. From a common and inexpensive filler flower from the 90’s to the rustic barn era from 2009 to 2013, it has now made a surprising come-back very, very quickly and, honestly, I could have used another decade before I was ready to embrace it again, but here we are! I strive to design weddings that feel classic, elegant and timeless so I wasn’t entirely sure how I was going to embrace this baby’s breath comeback in a way that felt consistent with my brand, but I’m sure glad I did.

I felt like it was a go-big or go-home kind of situation so I decided to make it a focal point wherever possible. From a large seating chart frame to a circular arch and flowing aisle and head table floral elements, it sure ended up as a statement element that felt fresh, modern and still somehow timeless.

Incorporating roses helped it to feel romantic, orchids to feel more modern and a soft, but warm colour palette made it feel calm while the use of classic patterns and texture helped it to feel upscale. Of course, the gorgeous setting of Langdon Hall Country House & Spa as a wedding venue didn’t hurt either in creating an overall sense of serene and calm.

In the end, might I even dare say that I am here for this baby’s breath trend to stay a little longer?!

The Langdon Hall Country House & Spa Wedding Dream Team consisted of Julia Park Photography, Statue Rue, Kendon Design Co., Simply Beautiful Decor, Makeup Worx, All You Need is Love Weddings and The Wright DJ Services.

Service: Full Planning and Design