Gift Etiquette at Destination Weddings

Proper etiquette dictates that for every wedding invitation, regardless of where the wedding is being held and whether you are attending, a gift is required. I would even go as far to say that if a couple has clearly indicated that your presence is gift enough, a small gift to celebrate their marriage is always a lovely gesture anyways.

I know this can be a hard one to grasp when you're already spending loads of money for your flight, accommodations, spending money, etc., but it doesn't have to be much. Honestly, don’t worry if you are spending less than what you usually might! Maybe just a credit towards a couples massage at the resort or a beautiful bottle of wine to enjoy that week! If you'd rather give them a gift from their wedding registry you may just be able to snag a great sale if you keep an eye out.

It's also totally fine to send the wedding gift as soon as the wedding invitation is received, so if you are not planning or able to attend the wedding, I suggest sending the gift at the same time as you send your response card. That way, you won't forget as you near closer to the wedding! If you do intend to join the celebration, purchasing ahead of time may also very much allow you to better budget.

Remember, though, don't ever bring a physical gift with you to a destination wedding. Every store with a wedding registry has options to ship the gift to their 'home store'. In other words, the location closest to their house, which makes both of your lives easier!

Lastly, remember that it is the thought that counts, not the value. So do what you can afford; it'll show that you really care!

Geometric and Floral Wedding at Airship 37

It was such an honour designing Christina and Patrick's wedding at Airship 37 this November. One of my favourite things about this space is that the opportunities with hanging ceiling decor are endless. The Berkeley Events team is excited to hear unique ideas and willing to assist with installation, something so hard to find with wedding venues nowadays. Keep scrolling to see more of this airy and feminine geometric and floral wedding and learn more about the incredible team.

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The Details

For Christina and Patrick, we wanted to keep it pretty, airy, timeless and intimate, without being overly girly. For stationery, we opted for a rose-gold foil wedding invitation suite and created a seating chart inspired to flow with the suite. As a cost saver, we used the in-house silver Chiavari chairs and expanded our design foundation from there. To gussy up the chairs, we added pink chair wraps for the first row of chairs during the ceremony which were repurposed for the head table during the reception. I then wanted to add texture and pattern but chose to do it in a monochromatic tone, one way to make a mixture of opposing styles work together fluidly. So I picked shades of silvers and ivories in a variety of patterns for the linens and opted for silver ring charger plates to add that little bit of tension with the square and round patterns. Blush and Bloom accented it with beautiful blush and white blooms. Finally, we added a ton of silver mercury glass and clear diamond cut glass votives and hurricanes to reflect the light and add even more texture.

Photography Heart and Sparrow
Florals Blush and Bloom
Venue and Catering Airship 37
Stationery Minted
Cake Sweet Regards by Daniela
DJ Enjoi DJ Outfit

Planning a Tent Wedding, Everything you Need to Know: Part 1

So you’ve got a large and gorgeously landscaped property and are thinking about planning a tent wedding in your backyard. It’s a lovely gesture to host your friends and family at your home, but you’ll want to be properly prepared for exactly what comes along with this task.I’ve heard it time and again from clients - they want to save money by doing it at home. While it’s not impossible, it’s all based on your expectations. If you’re wanting to create a space that feels like it’s an extension of your home, you can be looking at huge costs and loads of stress. Whereas if you don’t mind a more casual affair, with less glamourous finishes, you may well save some dough! There will always be things that could potentially outweigh the ease and comfort of a venue that is ready to handle all of the components an event requires. Today we’re going to take a look at the pros and cons of planning a tent wedding and the basic things you should consider before you make a final decision.

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Permits and Insurance

First up, consider the legal obligations you have for hosting the event at home. You should check with your insurance company to be sure you are covered. Most companies will offer temporary insurance to cover your event if it isn’t covered under your existing policy. Each city requires zoning and temporary structure permits. It is typically a 10 day processing period for both the zoning and the permits so be sure to plan this well in advance. The tent company should also be able to inform on what permits are required and they often offer the service of getting these permits on your behalf. Be sure that the tent company carries liability insurance and one of the installers should remain at the event to make required adjustments. Special Occasion Permits (SOPs) through the LCBO are not required for private estates if you are not selling tickets to the event where alcohol is served.

Event Flow

When guests first arrive, where should they go? If cocktail hour is to be uncovered, where will guests go in the event of rain during this period? There will be a lot happening in the reception space especially if it is also being used as the ceremony space. Will you need tents for the catering staff for clearing and prep stations? Where should washrooms be placed so they aren’t an eyesore, but are also easily accessible? Will you also host a farewell brunch the following morning under the tent? You'll want to consider the flow and set up for this event as well.

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Backyard Tent Wedding, Life Images Oakville Wedding Photographer, Laura Olsen Events, Toronto Wedding Planner, Oakville Wedding Planner

Electricity

Often forgotten electricity is a huge source of last-minute panic. Most people think they’ll just plug everything into the outlets on the outside of the house. What they don’t know, is that they are often running off one circuit so you’ll blow the fuse within minutes of nightfall, when you turn on all of the lights and your dance floor opens. You should definitely hire an electrician to be sure the power is being evenly distributed, to know exactly what your house can handle, and if you should be running another panel from the home. I once had clients run sets of extension cords from different circuits in the house to power the various components because they didn’t want to rent a generator or hire an electrician. What they didn’t consider, is that they weren’t heavy-duty extension cords and that the more extension cords you extend together, the power will decrease by the time it reaches the intended destination. In another situation, my clients did rent a panel but they simply plugged it into the one circuit outside the house. This should have been properly installed by an electrician to ensure it was running from a higher voltage outlet (think the oven or dryer). Endless trips down to switch the breaker were made by the father of the groom, meaning he barely got to enjoy the party. The hundreds of feet of twinkle lights they had strung into the trees were never enjoyed by guests and there was constant monitoring of what power was being used inside the house by house guests! Please do yourself the favour and ask each of your vendors about their specific electrical requirements so you can gauge exactly what power constraints will be placed on your house. Vendors to think about include the tent company (ie.lighting for both main and catering tent, if required), caterer, DJ, washrooms, cooler, photobooth. This way, you can be properly prepared to ensure a smooth wedding reception where you get to enjoy rather than panic over the things that could have been avoided.

The Extras

Flooring If the tent is going to be placed on a grassy area, I highly suggest adding a floor to your tent even though it’s an added expense. Not only is it incredibly frustrating walking on grass in heels, but it’s also just as annoying to sit in a chair that never really sits level and sinks into the ground.  Lastly, and most importantly, if it rains a raised floor will be much better than soggy wet grass. When you do add flooring, keep in mind that your lawn will basically be ‘finished’ for the rest of the summer and if heat builds up underneath it, the entire lawn may need to be resodded.

Lighting is not only a necessity, but it’s an easy way to add character to the tent so I’d suggest a bit of a splurge here. Also plan to have some sort of lighting leading guests from the tent to the washrooms or to parking so they don’t trip or get lost.

Cooling and Heating Weather is a hard one to anticipate especially if you’re getting married in the spring or fall. With today’s weather, things can go either way - chilly or crazy hot. Closing the tent walls can help significantly reduce the wind, chill and even bugs, but you’ll want to consider adding climate control to make sure your guests are comfortable for the entire evening. Draping Depending on the type of tent you rent, you may hate the appearance of the ceiling and walls from the inside. It’s not cheap to drape an entire tent, but it sure does add to the ambiance and aesthetic, making it feel more like ‘home’.

The Other Vendors

When planning a tent wedding, there are more than just a few vendors you'll need to make the event flow smoothly. Consider the following vendors to make your life easier!

Fogging Will it be in a heavily wooded area that could tend to be really buggy? You may want a fogging service to come by. They normally require no one to be on the property while they are spraying and will want to at least 24 hours after it has been sprayed for it to be effective. Typically lasts up to 4 days.

Cooler Rental You’ll want to rent a large cooler to keep beverages, ice, and food cold. You'll also require power to keep this running, so be sure to consider this when planning your electrical requirements.

Garbage Removal It can be quite surprising how much waste is created at the wedding just with food and beverage alone. Cities often have a limit of garbage bags per house on pick up day, so you may want to hire a service to remove the garbage after the wedding if the caterers aren’t taking the waste with them.

Restrooms Renting high-quality washrooms are imperative to the guest experience and luckily there are some beautiful options out there now! I recommended that you have at least 2 stalls per 50 guests of each gender, though I do recommend having more for your female guests as we all know well that there are always lines! The company will provide extra paper towels, soap, toilet paper, so there is no need to buy extra, though you may want to buy it. Will you have separate washrooms for the catering and wait staff or will they be using the same restrooms? If the latter, be sure to include them in your guest count when determining the size of the restroom trailer to rent. The big question during the event is to determine exactly who will be maintaining the washrooms throughout the evening? The catering staff? A member of your family?

Security If there’s one thing you must do aside from the legal components, it’s hiring a security service to monitor your home. While we trust our guests, there will be lots of strangers roaming the property the evening of the wedding (ie. caterer and service staff, tent company, and possibly some guests you don’t even know. Having a security service to monitor who is moving about the house is imperative to your home’s security and personal belongings.

Parking & Valet It’s normal to expect that approximately 50% of your guests will drive. Some towns have issues with parking for longer than 3 hours on streets and you’ll also want to be responsible if alcohol is being consumed, so consider the following things:

  • a shuttle service from the hotel;

  • consider renting out the parking lot of a local community centre or business that would be closed during the evening;

  • Have taxi numbers readily available, or someone assigned to call taxis on your guests’ behalf. You can also offer taxi chits for your guests at the end of the evening;

  • a valet service for your guests’ convenience.

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Backyard Tent Wedding, Life Images Oakville Wedding Photographer, Laura Olsen Events, Toronto Wedding Planner, Oakville Wedding Planner

The Setup and Teardown

The setup and tear down when planning a tent wedding can be a tricky dance. You’ll need to carefully orchestrate drop off and pick up times for each vendor so they don’t interfere with each other. The chairs and tables other rentals can’t be delivered until after the tent has been set up and vice versa on tear down. The setup of the tent alone can take anywhere from 4-8 hours depending on size and requirements. It is highly recommended that the tent be installed at least the day before the wedding if not two.

Is your property large enough to accommodate the delivery trucks? They are often large and need a big enough space to turn around and unload.

Assign someone to do an inventory count of everything when the rental company drops everything off and again before they return to collect after the completion of the event. If you have a sprinkler or irrigation system, be sure it is turned off in advance of the tent delivery and setup and for the duration of the wedding weekend. Have a good plan for setting up on the wedding day. The tent company should offer setup of tables, chairs and other rentals they provide, typically for an additional fee and the caterer should handle any of linens and place settings. You’ll still want to assign someone to double-check that everything was set up according to plan. Does a table that requires only 7 place settings actually have 8 places? It’s an easy mistake to make if the last minute changes or final plans weren’t communicated to the tent or caterer. Designate a smoking area with proper ashtrays.

Remind your neighbours of your ceremony start time so they don’t decide to mow their lawns during the middle of it.

Following the wedding, the rental company will require that the chairs be stacked, tables are collapsed, and everything is neatly arranged in one spot. Consider who will be responsible for collapsing and tidying everything at the end of the evening and the day following the wedding.

Who will be responsible for taking the extra alcohol inside at the end of the evening? Who will be responsible for returning any extras to the liquor store? Remember that open cases or labels that have been wet/ruined cannot be returned.

Timeless Casa Loma Wedding

If you've ever been to a Casa Loma wedding, you'll know it's one of the best wedding venues in Toronto. From the guest experience to the customer service during the planning process, it's a beautiful place to be. Kathryn and Dan chose Casa Loma for their July wedding and brought the Laura Olsen Events team for wedding styling and planning. Captured by Mango Studios, this was easily one of my favourite weddings from the 2015 season. When it came to the design, Kathryn wanted something feminine, timeless and full of gorgeous simplicity. Music to our wedding designing ears. We chose a gorgeous palette of ivories, champagnes, whites, and greys and partnered them a mixture of textures of mattes and metallics and plain and clear cut glass. We collaborated with Blush and Bloom, one of our favourite Toronto wedding florists, to bring romance to the design through lush greens and gorgeous white blooms. A dreamy, wood stained chuppah draped in greens and simple white blooms created the focal point in the Conservatory, where the ceremony took place. We allowed the library, the reception space, to take full focus of the design, simply adding more pretty blooms, lots of candle light, and an accent head table linen to set it apart from the rest of the guest tables. Sigh. Can we go back and relive this day?

Photography Mango Studios
Florals Blush and Bloom Flower Studio
Bridesmaid Dresses J. Crew, Matte Crape Line
The Venue Casa Loma
Linens Susan Murray International

Niagara on the Lake Orchard Wedding

A bright, colourful, fun Niagara on the Lake Wedding.

Aly and Tim came up from the States to have a destination Niagara on the Lake wedding and they couldn't have been more fun! Right from the get-go I knew these two were unique, bringing all of their friends and family across the border to the sweet, intimate town for a wedding-filled weekend. It's obvious that the two families have a heck of a lot of fun together and that it was going to be one rockin' party! Niagara on the Lake, a quick jaunt across the border, is a gorgeous spot for a destination wedding. Especially when the US dollar is doing so well! Intimate accommodations and endless locally sourced food options await wedding guests, making it a full weekend experience.Aly and Tim chose a stunning orchard property to host their wedding. The perfect setting for their bright, casual and refined affair.Keep scrolling to see and read more about one of our favourite Niagara on the Lake weddings this year!

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THE DESIGN

Having already chosen their wedding when they came to me, I was so honoured to have been presented with the opportunity to make their design dreams come to life. We settled on a bright, colourful palette that was lush with purple and pink hues then accented by a light turquoise.The venue provided the gorgeous live edge tables and chiavari chairs, giving the tented space that casual, but refined vibe. We added beautiful iron hoop chandeliers to brighten up the space. Two centerpiece styles were used to create some visual interest complimented by lots of candlelight to warm up the tent at night.We created a unique table layout where the bride and groom were literally surrounded by their closest family and friends. This allowed all guests an equal view of the bride and groom throughout the evening and left room for a large dance floor so everyone could boogie down to the live band!Aly and Tim, congratulations and thank you trusting that, together, we would throw one awesome party! Now go and enjoy your Hawaii honeymoon!

Photography M.K. Photographics
Florals Bloom and Co.
Calligraphy Plume Calligraphy
Chandeliers and Napkins Simply Beautiful Decor
Orchard Wedding in Niagara on the Lake

Whistle Bear Golf Club Wedding

From the first time we spoke on the phone, I knew that Halston and I were going to get along just fine. Her gentle, uplifting voice drew me in immediately and I knew I wanted to be a part of her big day. She had chosen the crisp white, newly redesigned Whistle Bear Golf Club wedding space; a perfect wedding venue where a couple can add their own personality. Keep scrolling to see more of this stunning wedding and the details about the rest team.

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Whistle Bear Golf Club Wedding, Cambridge Wedding Planner, Laura Olsen Events, Forest Wedding

Halton wanted to keep the palette soft and airy so we settled on a soft lavender to accent the girls' gorgeous purple-grey dresses, which also happened to perfectly match my ombre blue-lavender mercury glass votive holders. Keeping the linens and napkins white, we created a great base to show off the table settings of fresh flowers, votives and brass inspired table numbers. Tina Riddell from Living Fresh Flower Studio did the stunning bouquets and arrangements, including the unique cake topper made of full fresh flowers. I don't think they could have been more perfect for Halston's vision.As with the rest of the Pearl Hospitality venues, Whistle Bear is top-notch. Everything from the service to the food, to the design of the space. They run a tight ship there, and while there may be other weddings happening at the same time, you'd barely notice they are THAT good. It's definitely one of the best weddings in the Cambridge area.

Photography Nikki Mills
Florals Living Fresh Flower Studio
Venue Whistle Bear Golf Club
Accommodations + Getting Ready Space Langdon Hall
Transportation Black Car Waterloo
Hair Melissa Joy
Makeup Elysa Casale
Cake Picture Perfect Cakes

Tips for Wedding Dress Shopping

I’ve assembled the top 10 things to consider when shopping for a wedding dress which will make your wedding planning experience that much better!

Be Realistic about your Budget

Having a realistic price point will not only save you the heartache of falling in love with a dress outside of your budget, but it'll also save you time so you're not loading your fitting room with too many options. There are plenty of amazing options in all price points so you're better off trying dresses you can afford, which also ensures you have room for the cost of alterations, taxes, and accessories such as veil, shoes, lingerie, and jewelry.

Consider the Venue, Your Closet and Guest Dress Code

I always tell my brides to secure their wedding venue and date before purchasing their gowns as the season and venue style can offer cues as to what will be appropriate for to fabrics (you likely won't want a bulky ball gown on the beach). Consider what is in your closet and take queues. It's often a good place to start when looking for flattering silhouettes. Think about your favourite assets and show them off! Do you typically lean towards girly, ball-gown style dresses or do you like something that hugs your figure? Do you prefer spaghetti straps over strapless? Lastly, if the wedding ceremony is taking place in a church, be sure you inquire about guidelines you will need to follow, such as covering your shoulders. You don't want to find out at your wedding rehearsal!

Listen to the Shoppe Attendant's Suggestions

Shoppe attendants really know what they're doing. This is what they do for a living and they've been through this a thousand times. You'll see they pick up on your preferences pretty quickly and can suggest options that will suit your figure. They also know how much effort a dress will require in alterations, so it's totally ok to ask the shoppe attendant to suggest dresses that are designed in such a way that they would be easy to alter.

Wear the Right Undergarments and Accessories

It's important to bring what undergarments you are seriously considering wearing on your wedding day (ie. Spanx or shapewear and a nude, strapless bra). It's also a good idea to bring a pair of comfortable heels that are a realistic height for what you would wear on the wedding day as the extra height can immediately change how you look in the dress. By the time you do your first dress fitting after ordering your dress you'll need your gown-specific undergarments so don't leave this decision too late!

Limit your Entourage

It's an exciting time and everyone wants to be included in the wedding dress shopping experience. Some will never (or never) get the chance to shop for themselves, but it's incredibly important to limit the number in your entourage. It'll give you a fair chance at finding your perfect dress without having too many options. Aunt Jane's opinion of what she thinks is "you" will be drastically different from those who know you incredibly well and could shop for you with their eyes closed.

Expect to Spend A Few Hours at Each Dress Shopping Appointment

People are always surprised that a few hours have passed when trying on dresses. Have stain-safe snacks on-hand!

Trust Your Instincts and Watch to Your Body Language

The most important thing when choosing a wedding dress is to be completely and utterly head over heels in love with your choice. Listen to your body language. Did you stand up a little straighter? Can't stop running your hands over the dress and looking at yourself in the mirror? Do you want to wear it home? Those are good signs! Are you constantly hiding the spots you're feeling self-conscious about or having to be reassured that it looks great? It probably means that it's not 'the one'.

Shop at the Best Times

If you are able, take a half-day off at work as shops will be quieter and you'll get better one-on-one attention. If you do have to schedule a weekend, be sure to schedule first thing in the morning as the attendants will be more alert, fresh-minded and able to give you better attention. Sample sales often present amazing dresses at incredible prices, but try to avoid the first day or you'll drive yourself crazy. Call and find out how many days the sample sale is running, when they find the traffic tends to be slower, usually the second or third day of the multi-day sales.

Forget the Size.

Seriously. You'll thank me for it. Ready-to-wear and bridal sizing are two completely different animals so do not be discouraged if you're a size 6 in "real-life" but a size 10 in your wedding dress. Don't convince yourself that you will lose weight (though you likely will) just to be able to mentally handle the dress size. It's always better to buy a dress that fits your current figure and alter it after if it's too big. You can always make a dress smaller, but it's near impossible to make it bigger if it doesn't fit. It's always possible that there will be unforeseen issues that may arise that may prevent you from getting into your goal weight. Seriously. Do not focus on the size.

Read The Fine Print

Yay! You just said 'yes' to the dress! Now take a deep breath and carefully look through the fine print. Are all of the notes correct? The colour, size, inclusions, the price! It's easy to get caught up in the excitement, but be sure you have a clear head when signing off on the paperwork!